What do we mean by success?
Authors tend to be a species driven to succeed. So what do we mean by success? Here are my current top five ideas about what ‘success’ means.
~ A successful person does not compete with others, but pushes themselves to do the best they can with what they have available to them – time, money, opportunities, energy, inspiration – at any one time. When we know we have done the best we could, there is no room for regret.
~ A successful person first sets goals that are achievable and easy to reach. Two small goals are better than one big one. Once we meet our small goals, we can set bigger ones, until goal setting becomes our favourite game. Set the goal, believe in it, and watch the outcome!
~ Success embraces ‘failure’ as an essential part of what it means to succeed. Without ‘failure’ – maybe we could redefine that as ‘investing in alternatives’ – how can we decide what we prefer?
~ Success as a concept is surprisingly subjective, so we need never get upset when other people have different ideas about what it means for us; instead, we focus on what we enjoy, and what we can do, and we take ourselves forward tenderly, hopefully and with deliberate intention, not overly concerned with other people’s opinions.
~ Success means nothing if we are unhappy. To be happy – content, peaceful, at rest with oneself – is one of the highest aims in life, and however we define it, our success should serve that end. If first, we can be happy whatever we are doing, success is already agreed, and nothing further then depends on any goal we have in mind. Instead, our happiness gives us energy to move forward more easily and confidently, whatever we are doing.

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August 16, 2018
Listening while I write
Fran Macilvey The Rights & Wrongs of Writing, Women's fiction and chic lit 2 Comments
Listening while I write
Some days – not as often as I thought – I find I need total silence to write. Other times, listening while I write, a tune or dissonance simply catches my mood and lifts it amazingly so that I can write, and focus easily, see the gaps and the errors I need to address in whatever I’m working on.
Such a relief.
While I love silence, I also relish the feeling that I can connect through the varied emotional streams offered in music, classical and pop, county, jazz, and which somehow give me the strength when I need it, to work in a particular way.
Call it riding the wave, borrowing a vibe, I don’t really know how it works, and I hardly care, as long as I make progress.
It takes lots of different ideas working together, to make an outcome that satisfies. Who knows what music – or silence – will help to turn ideas into our new reality? Even if most of the emotion that music or silence engenders is faked, false, someone else’s, I’m not worried, because at the very least, that emotional input helps me to make something and take it forward.
For which I’m so grateful.
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