What do we mean by success?
Authors tend to be a species driven to succeed. So what do we mean by success? Here are my current top five ideas about what ‘success’ means.
~ A successful person does not compete with others, but pushes themselves to do the best they can with what they have available to them – time, money, opportunities, energy, inspiration – at any one time. When we know we have done the best we could, there is no room for regret.
~ A successful person first sets goals that are achievable and easy to reach. Two small goals are better than one big one. Once we meet our small goals, we can set bigger ones, until goal setting becomes our favourite game. Set the goal, believe in it, and watch the outcome!
~ Success embraces ‘failure’ as an essential part of what it means to succeed. Without ‘failure’ – maybe we could redefine that as ‘investing in alternatives’ – how can we decide what we prefer?
~ Success as a concept is surprisingly subjective, so we need never get upset when other people have different ideas about what it means for us; instead, we focus on what we enjoy, and what we can do, and we take ourselves forward tenderly, hopefully and with deliberate intention, not overly concerned with other people’s opinions.
~ Success means nothing if we are unhappy. To be happy – content, peaceful, at rest with oneself – is one of the highest aims in life, and however we define it, our success should serve that end. If first, we can be happy whatever we are doing, success is already agreed, and nothing further then depends on any goal we have in mind. Instead, our happiness gives us energy to move forward more easily and confidently, whatever we are doing.
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Diane Dickson
August 16, 2018 @ 9:26 am
I think that maybe there are also a big group of us (and I do include myself) who never believe that we are successful, and that it is just around the next corner, over the next hill. I wonder if it’s because we are not really sure what success would look like so we’ll never get to see it. Interesting post
Fran Macilvey
August 16, 2018 @ 2:36 pm
Ha! Yes indeed, Diane, I do include myself in that category too. Which is why I find it more helpful to shorten my view and think about now – what I may be doing well, anything, really, that does appear to be working, which I could call success. It’s all too easy to make comparisons with others that leave us feeling either a bit smug or a bit depressed, isn’t it?!
Thanks for your thoughtful comments.
Elouise
August 21, 2018 @ 4:09 pm
This is a wonderful list, Fran. Just what I need right now and back then! 🙂 I appreciate Diane’s comments as well. What’s working for me right now? What isn’t/wasn’t as satisfying as I thought it would be? And exactly what makes it satisfying to me? Most important and difficult, What do I love to do (as a writer, right now) no matter what anyone else thinks about it?
I used to think I’d find some clear (if not magical) formula. Not going to happen….writing is never mechanical unless I am. 🙂
Fran Macilvey
August 21, 2018 @ 5:18 pm
My dear Elouise
Thank you so much for your comments – all of them as so much on point, kind and supportive of my efforts. I really appreciate that. What we think about success will keep changing, of course. These are ideas that have just occurred to me lately. Since I’m suspicious of anyone who talks too loudly of ‘competing’ – we work best with each other, not against each other – what other way can I find that will motivate without discouraging? These ideas work at the moment for me. For which I am grateful. xx