More discoveries in lockdown
- Finding any reason to laugh and stay positive is more important than…almost anything.
If, like me, you live in a small flat with minimal privacy or free space, it becomes immensely important to get along. And in doing my best to get along, I’ve rediscovered my sense of humour, and a willingness to compromise and let go of things that previously, I had a view on: take-away for supper? Fine… Coke with that? Fine… Watch repeats of favourites all night? Fine… And in letting go, I find that my relaxed attitude encourages cheerfulness all round.
- Time spent with people we love is always a good idea.
In common with staying positive, falling into a gentle pace with those nearest and dearest to us is a choice I welcome and more consciously deploy. So I have less privacy, fewer opportunities to do my own thing? Then I’ll make the best of whatever “me” time I do have. I discover I don’t need, or enjoy, being on-line or watching Youtube all the time, so I do much less of that and instead go out for walks or read books from my favourite authors. And when others are nearby, I do my best to enjoy their company. They – let’s face it – have as little freedom to choose their home companions as I do. I have no right to make them miserable, so I do my best to enjoy being fully present with them, often in small ways that add up to something valuable.
- When I’m feeling confused, I ask myself, “If time was short, what’s the first thing I would do?” and then I try to go and do it first.
Whether it’s re-prioritising my morning routine – “wash dishes or eat?” – or deciding what piece of work I’ll tackle first, I spend less time wondering, and more time doing, so that my pile of small, conscience-driving tasks gets dealt with quickly. And so, I enjoy all my time more. If I’m really confused, that’s often a sign that I’m overtired, so I’ll take a break. I’ve discovered that most work I attempt while in a frazzle is often not worth much.
- It’s never too soon to relax and see things differently.
Being forced into confinement for well-nigh a year, one has to re-organise one’s expectations. So I’ve taken my chances to refresh my ideas of what is worthwhile, based on a decided preference for being relaxed, and taking one day at a time. Slowing down and honestly reflecting on what I prefer, produces surprisingly calming results.
- Worrying wastes precious time.
More discoveries in lockdown continue apace. Meantime, instead of worrying and obsessing about the news, I’ll look for the positive or do something to change my mood: go for a walk whatever the weather, write that letter, make that call, do a job that may need attending to, jump on the spot for ten minutes, bake a cake. And for the rest, I don’t want to spoil what opportunities may come my way by worrying about the future. Instead, I find it easier to reserve judgement, grin, and bear it.
Thanks so much for reading. I welcome all your suggestions, comments and ideas.