A new mini-series in which I explore how we start writing.
We start writing seriously when we finally accept that there is nothing we would rather do, than sit all day and craft a story. Or explain something that is dear to our hearts. Or cut a swathe through old literature with a bright new perspective.
Writing – or communicating with others – has to be what motivates us to leave aside the laundry, work late at night, ignore the telephone and neglect to cook complicated meals. In short, it has to be something of an obsession. If it is not, we will fail to prioritise it enough, give it our love, our thought, our energy, tears and precious time.
For every writer out there who does write and who is struggling to make it, there will be many dozens who say, “Yes, I would love to write, and I would be good at it, too. I have a great story to tell….” but who will look askance when it is suggested that they could put pen to paper, or fingers to the keyboard. “Yes, of course I would love to, but once I got started, I would never stop, and I have too much else to do!” Then, no matter how good our story, no matter how perfect our writing style or how witty our voice, nothing can happen. We write when we sit down to write, and nothing else will do. Simple.
Actually….not so simple. As soon as we sit down to write, a dozen or twenty other things that we “ought to be doing” will pop into our heads for a look see how we wasted five hours today. Everyone, is seems, has something better to do than write. Perhaps it is a very British obsession, this idea that we should be occupied with something ‘more worthwhile’. Sooner or later, most writers have to consider how they will handle the critic in their heads that suggests they “should” be doing something else more sensible, practical or lucrative. That voice, which talks such convincing common sense, may come from our family members, from disillusioned parents who only want the best for us; from our spouse who is worried about the monthly payments; from our colleagues who think we should stop taking all this creative stuff so seriously; from other writers who see nothing but difficulty and disillusionment coming our way, and from ourselves, when we are unused to doing something as frivolous as actually writing a book from start to finish.
(To be continued)
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diane
February 24, 2016 @ 12:04 pm
Oh Fran – How very very accurately you have stated this – All the trial, turmoil and yes I admit it Guilt rolled together in one post – Well done.
Fran Macilvey
February 24, 2016 @ 1:59 pm
Thank you so much, Diane. xxx 🙂
Meredith
February 24, 2016 @ 7:07 pm
Well said! And certainly words for thought. It seems as though making writing a priority is an indulgence these days. Nevermind that it has a purpose and can be quite useful (whether on a personal or public level)!
It’s an unfortunate mindset that I fall into all the time. I struggle with making it a priority myself. All too often I think “I’ll just clear the decks so I can have guilt-free writing time,” only to be too spent afterwards to be creative. It’s a struggle to change a long-ingrained way of thinking but I’m hopeful 🙂
Fran Macilvey
February 24, 2016 @ 7:41 pm
Dear Meredith! It’s lovely to hear from you, and thank you so much for commenting!
I have faced this problem for years, so I thought it would be good to write about it ;). I have a saying I use, if you love to do something, do it first! Don’t put it at the end of your ‘to-do’ list. (Isn’t it funny how we put what matters most to us at the end?) It’s a very common problem for creative people, and especially for women who are taught to be obliging, no bother etc etc. Oh, and yes, we can make it a struggle to change, or we can just do life differently.
Please let me know how you get on. ((xxx))
Val Poore
February 25, 2016 @ 6:04 pm
I write for my own pleasure, Fran, and given the time, I spend hours writing, but I am a teacher of Academic Writing, so sadly, it’s rarely about what I feel like doing that counts. I spend most evenings marking assignments and coaching others and teaching during the day. Weekends are my only writing opportunity! But yes, I do that before other things 🙂
Fran Macilvey
February 25, 2016 @ 6:46 pm
Thanks so much for your comment, Val. I guess I was a specialist writer too, for a long time, reading legal papers and getting used to legalese. It’s a different world, isn’t it? So glad you write for yourself, though. It is a precious opportunity to explore the world on our own terms. xx 🙂